Lately, I've been feeling mighty protective of my husband and our marriage. I struggle with finding a line between jealousy and protection. It's taken me a while to even conclude what I have a hard time with and why!
I have a few girl friends who are single. I don't see them often, but recently we've seen them several weekends in a row. I think they are great girls and they love the Lord. However, they are very flirty with Patrick and go out of their way to serve him. Honestly, I don't mind sometimes because I am glad that my husband is getting cared for...but that's my job.
After much thought and prayer, I remembered that I was the same way with guys when I was single. The catch was that I didn't have many married guy friends, so it was difficult for me to relate to this situation. My conclusion is this: They are single girls, wanting men to notice them, wanting men to see that they are wife material. The problem is that they don't know the boundaries with married men and therefore, treat my husband like he is single and up for grabs. (Trying not to be jealous here...)
I realized that instead of trying to protect my marriage, set up boundaries and discuss with Patrick the things that upset me and make me uncomfortable, I have been getting angry and frustrated with him. He didn't do anything wrong! It makes me so sad to think of all the times I've wrongly accused him of something that I know he didn't do.
I believe that God is glorified when we protect the things He has given us. Patrick isn't just my husband. He is my best friend, my partner, a gift and a blessing. I need to pray for and care for this relationship. I need to ask the Lord how to protect my marriage, how to guard my heart and thoughts. It's not an easy task, but how can I fail when I'm seeking the Lord?
Marriage is sacred. It is a holy union. It's a lifelong commitment between two people. A covenant with one another, more so, a covenant with God. It needs to be protected and cared for. It's not a relationship that can grow on it's own. It needs to be cultivated, pruned, and watered.
Marriages that last have been fought for and protected. They have been cried over and prayed over. They've shed tears and roared with laughter. They've been through the dark trenches of this world. They've experienced real life together. These things are worth going through, knowing that on the other side you'll come out with a marriage that can move mountains, that can break down walls, that can chuckle at your mistakes and wipe countless tears away.
I am excited to see how the Lord guides us and shows us how to protect this sweet union He has given us. My marriage is worth fighting for. It's worth protecting.